FOOD FOR THOUGHT….

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TOP 5 REGRETS PEOPLE HAVE ON THEIR DEATHBED

When I saw this title while surfing the web this morning, it immediately caught my attention.  I am always trying to live my life to its fullest (key word is TRYING), so I don’t have to look back with regret, but it’s not easy.  We know death is inevitable but it’s not something we think about daily (at least we try not to!), so we often get caught up in our busy day-to-day hustle, forgetting what really matters in the end.

Bonnie Ware, a hospice nurse who works in palliative care (patients who have gone home to die), questioned her patients about any regrets they might have had or anything they would do differently.  Here are the most common themes she found:

The most common of all was:

1. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the one others expected of me. Most had not honored even half of their dreams. She found that they went to their death realizing that this was a choice they had made, and they deeply regretted having never really lived their dreams, or even part of them. As Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw said, “most people go their graves with their music still in them.”

2. I wish that I hadn’t worked so hard. This came from many male patients she had nursed. They regretted missing their children growing up and the companionship of their spouse or partner. She primarily worked with elderly men because this generation didn’t have as many women who were breadwinners. All of the men deeply regretted spending so much time “on the treadmill” of work and giving in to the drive to get ahead. As I suspected, no one ever said on their death bed, “I only wish I had worked harder.”

3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings. Many had repressed their own feelings to keep the peace, either with a spouse or family members. As a result, they settled for a mediocre life and didn’t realize their own potential. She said many had developed illnesses related to carrying the resentment and bitterness for so many years.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. They would realize, too late, the importance of close friendships and in the last stages of life didn’t have the time to track them down to tell them how sorry they were. They were caught up in their own lives and let important friendships slip and realized too late how deeply they regretted this. She observed that love and relationships was ultimately the only thing that mattered to all of her patients in the end.

5. I wish I had let myself be happier. She said this was surprisingly common and that many did not realize that happiness is a choice they could have made all along. Because of their fear of change, they pretended to themselves and others that they were content. Deep inside they longed to really belly laugh and be silly and not care what others thought. On their deathbed, what others thought was not important.

SO WHAT CAN WE TAKE HOME FROM THIS:

We may not be able to choose the circumstances that lead to our physical death, but the choices we make during the course of our lives will inform the degree of psychological peace we experience at this final juncture.

 

Read more: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/top-5-regrets-people-have-on-their-deathbed.html#ixzz3CjVv47zO

 

HAVE A GREAT DAY LADIES!   Do at least one thing you really enjoy today!

RIMA =)

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